To the ISFJ with an “ENTP” who asked a question earlier

Hello!
I’m an ISFJ and my boyfriend is an ENTP, aka the exact opposite.
But I’m in the healthiest and best relationship of my entire life. Do you think it’s likely that one of us is actually a different type or is it possible that even though we’re opposites it can completely work.
I feel like we bring out the best in each other and give to each other what the other lacks. It’s an extremely rewarding relationship. :)

(This Ask)

I’d like to point out what was blindingly obvious to me when I read your ask:

Your boyfriend is not an ENTP, he is an ESTP, but don’t despair! (ISFJ-ENTP wouldn’t want to spend 5 minutes with each other. ISFJ-ESTP is a match made in heaven.) That’s good news though, you’re a living testament to how well these optimal pairings can go.

Type dynamics and functional interactions can be a very useful tool to figure out type. I’ve spotted many ESFPs who’ve thought they were ENFPs, just because INTJ-ENFP is so incredibly different than ESFP-INTJ. Likewise, I’ve found an ENFP who thought they were an ESFP because of the dynamic, as well. (I’m very familiar with ESFPs and ENFPs. My Father is an ESFP and my sister is an ENFP. My ideathief is an ENFP as well.

-TheAlecDelgado

Q:I never see anyone talking about ISFJ! haha I've been hooked on your tumblr for the past 48 hours on and off.. and I can't stop reading all the analysis. I just.. I wish I wasn't such a feeler. god! Do you think it would be an interesting idea to ask my mom and dad to take the personality test just to compare and contrast...?

el-amor-duele-deactivated201107

We are all glad that you’re enjoying it :)

Haha, sometimes I wish that I wasn’t a feeler too. It’s frustrating sometimes because even if I take the time to see things from a logical point of  view, and solve my problem, I’m still upset, lol.

 I’ve had all of my family and friends and even some acquaintances take personality inventories. It helps me get into their head a little, know where they’re coming from.

- theideathief

Q:Hello!
I'm an ISFJ and my boyfriend is an ENTP, aka the exact opposite.
But I'm in the healthiest and best relationship of my entire life. Do you think it's likely that one of us is actually a different type or is it possible that even though we're opposites it can completely work.
I feel like we bring out the best in each other and give to each other what the other lacks. It's an extremely rewarding relationship. :)

Anonymous

Hi! How interesting!

I don’t know you, anon, so I can’t really know what type you and your boyfriend are. The likelihood that this type paring will get along is slim, but it’s definitely possible. Perhaps you should retest or look at the cognitive functions? 

And I have some more general things to say:
It doesn’t matter what type you are, a good, real, relationship is one where you’re always challenged, growing and there are open lines of communication and both parties truly and honestly attempting to communicate with each other.

Of course, it’s hard to generalize any kind of type paring to the rest of the world, because a person’s development within their type, really determines what kind of relationship is best for them.

The suggested type parings ones are based on common functions (which suggests, by default, easier communication), or complimenting functions (such as Te/Ti or Ne/Ni).

There are no “rules” for which types do and don’t get along, there is only likelihood.

- theideathief

Q:Do you think that family (genetics, biology, etc) influences MBTI at all? Interested to know because of the question given to you by the twins with opposite personality types. I am an INFJ (very strong IJ and moderately strong NF) and my identical twin sister is an INFP. We have an ENFP younger sister, and our parents are ISFJ (mom) and INTJ (dad).

rainyautumntwilight

Refer to one of recently answered (two down I believe) for a more extensive answer.

Genetics, apparently, has a lot to do with it- but so does environment. People are constantly compensating for each other. Your dad is probably not very… feeling oriented, correct (strong T)? You and your siblings are all F’s, I would venture to say that you and your twin are not strong F’s- to “compensate” for your dad’s T. I would also say that your younger ENFP sister is a strong F and P?  Compensate is definitely the wrong word but I don’t have a suitable replacement… 

Whatever the case, Psychologists rely a lot more on the tell-tale environment than on genetics, for a good many reasons. We don’t give enough credit to how much others affect our personality. 

- Andria