Q:Hello!
I'm an ISFJ and my boyfriend is an ENTP, aka the exact opposite.
But I'm in the healthiest and best relationship of my entire life. Do you think it's likely that one of us is actually a different type or is it possible that even though we're opposites it can completely work.
I feel like we bring out the best in each other and give to each other what the other lacks. It's an extremely rewarding relationship. :)

Anonymous

Hi! How interesting!

I don’t know you, anon, so I can’t really know what type you and your boyfriend are. The likelihood that this type paring will get along is slim, but it’s definitely possible. Perhaps you should retest or look at the cognitive functions? 

And I have some more general things to say:
It doesn’t matter what type you are, a good, real, relationship is one where you’re always challenged, growing and there are open lines of communication and both parties truly and honestly attempting to communicate with each other.

Of course, it’s hard to generalize any kind of type paring to the rest of the world, because a person’s development within their type, really determines what kind of relationship is best for them.

The suggested type parings ones are based on common functions (which suggests, by default, easier communication), or complimenting functions (such as Te/Ti or Ne/Ni).

There are no “rules” for which types do and don’t get along, there is only likelihood.

- theideathief

Q:Do you believe someone can be in-between two personalities?
Every time I would take the test, for about 3~4 years, always resulted in ENTP, but then now that I've got depression my test results are sometimes INTP or ENTP...

Anonymous

In-between types? No.
(In-between personalities, yes, because personality can be defined along whatever arbitrary criteria they come up with next.)

This is a great question, anon, because it touches on a key concept. (Something an N should have no problem soaking up!) There are no in-between types, just because of how the lines are drawn.

Imagine an infinite flat plane (I’m picturing something like the Mii plaza on the Wii/3DS), with a point we will call center, and people milling about all around this flat plane. Now take the center point, and draw 16 lines out from it that extend infinitely outward. (Like a giant pie chart with a slice for each type to call home.) Notice what that would do to the people. Everyone would be either entirely contained between two lines, or be partially over a line. These people, who are partially over the line, are the ones we’re going to focus on. The person stepping over the line would be either coming or going from a slice of this entirely hypothetical type plaza. The direction they are coming from, whichever type that called that slice home, would be their type.

In other words, there is variation within type, but your type is always something static because of how we define type.

-TheAlecDelgado